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Looking for A Little Revenge

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Has someone done you wrong?

Taken away your chance for happiness,

peace, health, or success?

Come in like a thief in the night and stolen

what matters most to you?

If there was a guarantee that there would be

no negative consequences to you, would you

seek revenge against that person?

Many people would say “Absolutely.”


And The Research Says…

Researchers into the phenomenon of revenge 

have found, however, that those given the

opportunity to “punish” someone they believe

has done them harm actually feel worse 

afterwards than those who do not punish

their transgressors. Why would that be?


You Want Closure?

It is hypothesized that if you cannot or do not

seek revenge on someone, you eventually will

end up minimizing or trivializing what the

person did to you, or the impact it had on you.

Getting revenge, however, makes you unable

to see the original slight or harm as trivial,

because by seeking revenge, it automatically

becomes a “big deal,” one that may be impossible

for you to forget.

Instead of revenge giving you closure, getting

revenge means you will never get closure.

“The paradox of vengefulness is that it

makes men dependent upon those who have

harmed them, believing that their release

from pain will come only when their

tormentors suffer.” ~Laura Hillenbrand


What Matters To You?

If it doesn’t matter enough to me to take revenge

on you, then it stands to reason that you just

don’t really matter that much to me.

The opposite of love is not hate, it is

indifference. Anyone who has been shut out

of another person’s life knows that being

nothing to that person hurts more than if

that person just flat out hated your guts.

You have to at least care to hate someone’s guts.


Forgive or Forget?

So, what’s a person to do who is “angry as

Hell and not going to take it anymore?”

Do you have to forgive the person who hurt

you in order to forget them?

Thankfully, no.

Moving on with your life with the knowledge

you now have of who that person is and what

you need to do to heal is the best revenge.

Because it isn’t revenge.

It’s healing.

It’s living.

It’s success.




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