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You Have Permission

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Got Critics?

Do you have people in your life who

are, shall we say, “unsupportive” of you?

How about downright discouraging?

Critical? Judgmental? Dismissive?

It may be time for you to do something

about that…time to get very generous.

It’s Better To Give Than Receive!

It’s time to start granting permission to

those unsupportive people in your life.

And today is their lucky day!

Because you’re going to be very generous

and give permission for all sorts of things!

Are you ready?

Then print this out and nail it where

you know it will be seen (a la Martin Luther.)

Gifts of Permission

1. I give you permission to hate me,

to judge me, and to never understand me.

It’s okay. You’re allowed. There’s probably not

much I can do about this.

2. I give you permission to approve or

disapprove of anything I have ever done

or ever will do.

Your approval is not necessary, but it is

certainly allowed.  Your disapproval is also

not necessary, but is also allowed.

3. I give you permission to encourage or

discourage me in my endeavors to do what

I have deemed is right and healthy for me.

Your encouragement is welcome, but it is

not required for me to continue. Your

discouragement is unwelcome, but will not

deter me from continuing in my endeavors.

4. I give you permission to support or 

to not support me. Same goes here

regarding the encouragement business.

5.  I accept that you have a right to your opinion.

You have permission to own it, express it, and

to never change it. Your opinion has nothing to

do with who I am or how I will make decisions

in my life.

6. I give you permission to have all of this

without requiring that you extend the same

to me.  You have the right to decide what is right

and healthy for you to do, because you have to live

with that, not me.

And Be Generous With Yourself!

Don’t forget to add this to your Gift List:

1 . I give myself permission to set boundaries

that allow me to be happy and healthy, to pursue

my goals and dreams unencumbered by your

need for me to fail or to be less than who I can be.

2. I give myself permission to make mistakes and

learn from them.

3. I give myself permission to enjoy my

successes and achievements and to be content

with who I am.

You Have Permission

It always feels better letting people be who they

are, especially once you finally realize you can’t

change them.

Remember that people change if they want to,

not because you want them to.

The great thing about life is that you don’t have

to wait for other people to change for you to

get going and start doing the things you were

meant to do.   You have permission.


This week in A Year to Change, we are working

on the chapter called Eat With Your Mind,

Not With Your Mouth.  If you’ve ever gotten

to the bottom of a box of Nilla Wafers and

wonder who ate all of them, standing up in

the kitchen watching the TV, then this may

be the chapter for you! Learning how to eat

mindfully will save you from putting on pounds

and make life much more enjoyable as well.

Come join me and find out how!





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