Do you have people in your life who
are, shall we say, “unsupportive” of you?
How about downright discouraging?
Critical? Judgmental? Dismissive?
It may be time for you to do something
about that…time to get very generous.
It’s Better To Give Than Receive!
It’s time to start granting permission to
those unsupportive people in your life.
And today is their lucky day!
Because you’re going to be very generous
and give permission for all sorts of things!
Are you ready?
Then print this out and nail it where
you know it will be seen (a la Martin Luther.)
Gifts of Permission
1. I give you permission to hate me,
to judge me, and to never understand me.
It’s okay. You’re allowed. There’s probably not
much I can do about this.
2. I give you permission to approve or
disapprove of anything I have ever done
or ever will do.
Your approval is not necessary, but it is
certainly allowed. Your disapproval is also
not necessary, but is also allowed.
3. I give you permission to encourage or
discourage me in my endeavors to do what
I have deemed is right and healthy for me.
Your encouragement is welcome, but it is
not required for me to continue. Your
discouragement is unwelcome, but will not
deter me from continuing in my endeavors.
4. I give you permission to support or
to not support me. Same goes here
regarding the encouragement business.
5. I accept that you have a right to your opinion.
You have permission to own it, express it, and
to never change it. Your opinion has nothing to
do with who I am or how I will make decisions
in my life.
6. I give you permission to have all of this
without requiring that you extend the same
to me. You have the right to decide what is right
and healthy for you to do, because you have to live
with that, not me.
And Be Generous With Yourself!
Don’t forget to add this to your Gift List:
1 . I give myself permission to set boundaries
that allow me to be happy and healthy, to pursue
my goals and dreams unencumbered by your
need for me to fail or to be less than who I can be.
2. I give myself permission to make mistakes and
learn from them.
3. I give myself permission to enjoy my
successes and achievements and to be content
with who I am.
You Have Permission
It always feels better letting people be who they
are, especially once you finally realize you can’t
Remember that people change if they want to,
not because you want them to.
The great thing about life is that you don’t have
to wait for other people to change for you to
get going and start doing the things you were
meant to do. You have permission.
This week in A Year to Change, we are working
on the chapter called Eat With Your Mind,
Not With Your Mouth. If you’ve ever gotten
to the bottom of a box of Nilla Wafers and
wonder who ate all of them, standing up in
the kitchen watching the TV, then this may
be the chapter for you! Learning how to eat
mindfully will save you from putting on pounds
and make life much more enjoyable as well.
Come join me and find out how!