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Graduating from a school, college, or

program is supposed to be one of those

“happy” events we celebrate, falling in

the same category of major life transitions

as weddings and births.

You are moving from one place to another,

from one status to another, from one degree

to another.

And that’s a good thing, and can be a very

happy event.


But transitions are stressful, because by

definition they imply major life change.

And major life changes require major

adjustments, which is where the stress

comes from.

If you’re leaving middle school for high

school, high school for college or work,

college for graduate school or looking for

work…you are moving into uncharted

territory.  Uncharted, at least, for you.

It wouldn’t be abnormal at all if you had a

strong desire to stay right where you are


Follow the Trail

Here’s one very important thing for you to

remember: this is actually not uncharted

territory!  Others have gone before you and

not only survived, but left the proverbial trail

of bread crumbs for you to follow.

You do not have to figure out how to do well

in high school, college, medical school,

graduate school, or “the real world” all by

yourself. There are books, websites, blogs,

and forums to help you to learn about and

excel in any new arena you enter.

All you have to do is seek them out.

And a secret: Most people who have made

it to the next step are really happy to help

you get there, too. Just ask!

Forge Your Own Path

In addition to making use of all of the

accumulated wisdom of people who have

gone through these transitions before you,

it’s important that you forge your own path.

So maybe you don’t have to re-invent the

wheel, but maybe you can invent a more

efficient one or a more beautiful one.

That’s going to be your contribution to

the world and it’s very, very important.

Trust your gut, follow your instincts, and

don’t be afraid to veer away from the pack

when you have an idea you feel you must

see through.

It’s All Yours, Kid!

Let yourself feel all the happiness of

having made it through, all the joy and pride

of achievement that goes with graduation,

and being able to define yourself as having

completed something important.

Let yourself also feel the sadness of endings,

the uncertainty of new beginnings, and the

excitement about what lies ahead that you

cannot predict.

It’s all yours, kid!  You’ve earned it.




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