Is It Spring Yet?!
Okay folks, it’s Springtime in case you hadn’t
noticed yet…I’m talking to all you people
still scraping ice off of your windshields!
Yes, Spring seems to be taking it’s own
sweet time getting here this year. A certain
groundhog may or may not be to blame for this.
But sooner or later you know it’s going to be time
for that (depending on who you are) dreaded or
much-anticipated weekend of Spring Cleaning!
Time to Chase the Dust Bunnies!
You know that time that you actually get behind
the refrigerator and clean out the dust bunnies?
Yeah, me neither. But maybe you have some other
Spring Cleaning rituals like going through your
closets and getting rid of clothes you haven’t worn
in two years. Or cleaning down to the baseboards.
Or some other “let’s get rid of the dirt and grime
and accumulated junk so we can start out fresh
and clean and have a great Summer” ritual.
Time to Chase the Doubt Bunnies, Too!
While you’re Spring Cleaning your house, let’s
try doing a little Spring Cleaning for your Mind.
Here are 3 thoughts that, if they have accumulated
and taken up space in your mind, it’s time to sweep
them away to start your Summer off fresh and clean.
1. I Don’t Have Time For…
Let’s start by going after this one with mental Clorox.
It needs to go! You DO SO have time for whatever
you want to do. You have time for the things that
you have time for because you make time for them.
Period. Maybe you think you do them because you
“have” to or people are counting on you to do them.
Whatever. You make time for them. If something
is really important to you, you will make time for it.
You don’t have to find hours and hours in your day
or in your week to add in joyful activity, a favorite
hobby, or time for yourself. You just have to put it
on your schedule and honor it like you would an
appointment with your boss. Meaning that it’s
important and you don’t blow it off. Like that.
2. I’m Not Good At…
You’re not good at computers. You’re not good at
making small talk. You’re not good at relationships.
And you’re never going to be if you keep saying that.
Self-fulfilling prophecies are the best (and worst) kind.
They allow you to feel confident that you’re so smart.
You predict your behavior and darned if you aren’t
right nearly 100% of the time! Great. Not great!
Try sweeping away this crud and try a different thought.
It goes like this: I haven’t been good at______in the past,
but I don’t know what I’m capable of in the future.
Let’s open up a window and explore the possibility that
there’s something inside you that even YOU didn’t know
was there! That would be a cool self-fulfilling prophecy!
3. I Could Never…
I could never learn Spanish. I could never run a 5K.
I could never write a book. I could never tell him/her
how I feel. Let’s try my favorite reframe from one of
my favorite psychologists, the eminent William James.
He recommended you say instead of “could” or “should”:
“I can, and I have a choice.”
I can learn Spanish, and I have a choice.
I can run a 5K and I have a choice.
I can write a book and I have a choice.
I can tell him/her how I feel and I have a choice.
You don’t have to. You don’t have to do anything.
Now, what do you want to do?
Doesn’t it feel a little cleaner and brighter inside
your Mind already? Oh how nice!
Is it Spring yet?!