A Year To Change – eBook
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Sometimes You Just Gotta Let Go

You know you need to let go of your

need to be in complete control of

everything and everyone in your life.

Or maybe you don’t yet.

Either way, something is going to happen

to you that is going to challenge you and

make you see that you don’t,

as a matter of fact,

have control over everything

and everyone in your life.

Controlling is a Survival Skill

Controlling things, and over controlling

things, is a survival coping skill you may

have learned to deal with a situation which

was chaotic, unpredictable, and where you

probably didn’t have much power.

And it’s an awesome coping skill when the

matter before you requires “doing something”

to make things better.  It’s the “hammer”

coping skill…do it, fix it, manage it.

Letting Go is a Thriving Skill

But as a thriving skill…a skill that empowers

you to live a happy, healthy life…controlling

and over controlling just aren’t effective.

Kind of like using a hammer when you

really need a screw driver..you are going

to make a real mess of the job.

Facing Reality

The truth is that control and over control

are skills that aren’t reality-based for many

of the stressful situations in life.

The reality is that you have very little control

over most things in your life…not anything that

happened in the past, or will happen in the future,

or any other people on this planet.

Learning to let go of things you have no control

over is a very empowering thriving skill.

Finding Courage

One of my favorite movies is Finding Nemo.

There was a worrying, well-intentioned, but

over-controlling character in that movie who

had to learn to let go the hard way…

when there was literally no other choice.

Remember Marlin, Nemo’s Dad?

Stuck inside the whale with Dory,

scared out of his wits, convinced she was looney,

completely terrified he was going to die and believing

in his heart that the situation was hopeless.

Marlin took the ultimate risk and let go.

Remember that you can do this, too.

And you’ll be okay.  Really.

I can speak whale.  🙂


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