You know you need to let go of your
need to be in complete control of
everything and everyone in your life.
Or maybe you don’t yet.
Either way, something is going to happen
to you that is going to challenge you and
make you see that you don’t,
as a matter of fact,
have control over everything
and everyone in your life.
Controlling is a Survival Skill
Controlling things, and over controlling
things, is a survival coping skill you may
have learned to deal with a situation which
was chaotic, unpredictable, and where you
probably didn’t have much power.
And it’s an awesome coping skill when the
matter before you requires “doing something”
to make things better. It’s the “hammer”
coping skill…do it, fix it, manage it.
Letting Go is a Thriving Skill
But as a thriving skill…a skill that empowers
you to live a happy, healthy life…controlling
and over controlling just aren’t effective.
Kind of like using a hammer when you
really need a screw driver..you are going
to make a real mess of the job.
The truth is that control and over control
are skills that aren’t reality-based for many
of the stressful situations in life.
The reality is that you have very little control
over most things in your life…not anything that
happened in the past, or will happen in the future,
or any other people on this planet.
Learning to let go of things you have no control
over is a very empowering thriving skill.
One of my favorite movies is Finding Nemo.
There was a worrying, well-intentioned, but
over-controlling character in that movie who
had to learn to let go the hard way…
when there was literally no other choice.
Remember Marlin, Nemo’s Dad?
Stuck inside the whale with Dory,
scared out of his wits, convinced she was looney,
completely terrified he was going to die and believing
in his heart that the situation was hopeless.
Marlin took the ultimate risk and let go.
Remember that you can do this, too.
And you’ll be okay. Really.
I can speak whale. 🙂