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Working With Your “Healthy Rebel”

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Have you ever decided you were going to make

a change in how you eat or how active you are

and you make a plan and set your goals and…

you don’t follow through with it?

If the answer is is yes…it means you’re

human.  But wouldn’t you like to be

able to stick with something for once?

I Don’t Want To…

If we’re going to be really honest, (let’s!)

how many of us would rather eat a salad

of healthy greens over fast food?

The plain truth is that when you are trying to

make a healthy change in your life, even if

you want to, and even if you know it’s going

to either be good for you or feel good eventually,

change and doing things differently doesn’t

feel good at first.  You will absolutely resist it.

…And You Can’t Make Me!

The idea that you have to do something that

you don’t want to do or don’t like harkens

back to the time you were a toddler and trying

out the sentence “No!”  This is the birth of

the “healthy rebel” inside of you, that doesn’t

want to be controlled by anyone and wants

to “do it myself!”  So even if you want to eat

healthier or start an exercise program, the

healthy rebel in you will detect discomfort

and discipline and say “You can’t make me!”

You Need a Good Guard Dog

It’s good to have a healthy rebel inside

each of us, protecting us from ever being

told what to do by others.

The healthy rebel is like a guard dog,

keeping out those who would seek to control

us and make us conform to their will.

But when we are the one who wants to make

the healthy change, the rebel can start acting

like a guard dog who indiscriminantly keeps

out friends and family, in addition to dangerous

strangers. There is no good judgement used.

Your guard dog is no longer protecting you.

You guard dog is now the one causing you harm.

Get Your Dog Under Control

If your dog was biting all your friends who came

to your front door, and you couldn’t get him under

control, you wouldn’t have many friends coming

around anymore, at the very least.

If you don’t get your healthy rebel to step aside so

you can follow a food plan or exercise plan without

thinking you’re being controlled or punished, then

you won’t be able to make positive changes.

“I Got This!”

What do you do?

Tell your healthy rebel that you appreciate it’s

efforts to protect you from feeling controlled,

but that you are actually the one who wants to

follow this new regimen to see if it helps you…

not some mean outsider trying to harm you.

Tell your healthy rebel “I got this. I’ll let you

know if I need your help.”

That level of confidence might just allow your

healthy rebel to relax and sit back while you

make some healthy change!


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