“You can’t connect the dots looking forward;
you can only connect them looking backwards.
So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.
You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.
This approach has never let me down,
and it has made all the difference in my life.”
Connecting the Dots
If you are seeking answers to change by attempting to
understand how you got to where you are now…
in the place where you don’t like things and want
them to be different…this may not be the best strategy.
I’m not saying that you should never try to understand
how you got to where you are. It’s just that this is only
one ingredient in the recipe for change…and I’ll let you
in on a little secret…it’s actually an optional ingredient.
Banana Muffins with Walnuts
You can bake banana muffins with walnuts.
You can bake banana muffins without walnuts.
They are still banana muffins.
You can make huge changes in your life with an
understanding of how you got to where you are.
You can make huge changes in your life without
a clear understanding of how you got to where you are.
The point: You can still make huge changes in your life.
Walnuts without Banana Muffins
Not that I have anything against walnuts. I don’t.
But walnuts are not banana muffins and never will be.
They are two different things entirely.
And you can research, be in therapy, journal, and
tell me all the myriad reasons why you are the way you are.
And none of that will necessarily lead to change.
Because connecting the dots is just the walnuts.
Making real change is the muffin.
Is this as clear as molasses yet?
Don’t wait for the walnuts
If you’ve got the ability, resources, and motivation to
make some serious changes in your life, there is no
need to wait until you understand why you’re a mess.
Take that hot mess and work with it.
In fact, it may only be when you’ve really done the 180
that you have the perspective and wisdom necessary to
figure out all that stuff about the past, if you even want to.
Maybe you’ll just want to enjoy the muffin.
Connect the Dots Backwards
Like Steve Jobs said, connect the dots backwards.
Figure out how it all makes sense afterwards,
Act now. Live now. Change now.
Move forward without the clear knowing.
Trust that there will be more clarity in the future…
that those walnuts will eventually make it in to the recipe.
I prefer to connect the chocolate chips, anyway! 🙂