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Connecting the dots

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“You can’t connect the dots looking forward;

you can only connect them looking backwards.

So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.

You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.

This approach has never let me down,

and it has made all the difference in my life.”

~Steve Jobs

Connecting the Dots

If you are seeking answers to change by attempting to

understand how you got to where you are now…

in the place where you don’t like things and want

them to be different…this may not be the best strategy.

I’m not saying that you should never try to understand

how you got to where you are.  It’s just that this is only

one ingredient in the recipe for change…and I’ll let you

in on a little secret…it’s actually an optional ingredient.

Banana Muffins with Walnuts

You can bake banana muffins with walnuts.

You can bake banana muffins without walnuts.

They are still banana muffins.

You can make huge changes in your life with an

understanding of how you got to where you are.

You can make huge changes in your life without

a clear understanding of how you got to where you are.

The point:  You can still make huge changes in your life.

Walnuts without Banana Muffins

Not that I have anything against walnuts.  I don’t.

But walnuts are not banana muffins and never will be.

They are two different things entirely.

And you can research, be in therapy, journal, and

tell me all the myriad reasons why you are the way you are.

And none of that will necessarily lead to change.

Because connecting the dots is just the walnuts.

Making real change is the muffin.

Is this as clear as molasses yet?

Don’t wait for the walnuts

If you’ve got the ability, resources, and motivation to

make some serious changes in your life, there is no

need to wait until you understand why you’re a mess.

Take that hot mess and work with it.

In fact, it may only be when you’ve really done the 180

that you have the perspective and wisdom necessary to

figure out all that stuff about the past, if you even want to.

Maybe you’ll just want to enjoy the muffin.

Connect the Dots Backwards

Like Steve Jobs said, connect the dots backwards.

Figure out how it all makes sense afterwards,

not before.

Act now.  Live now.  Change now.

Move forward without the clear knowing.

Trust that there will be more clarity in the future…

that those walnuts will eventually make it in to the recipe.

Or not.

I prefer to connect the chocolate chips, anyway!  🙂

2 Responses to “Connecting the dots”

  • This is a great analogy about making change and moving forward.

    First we have to decide that we are ready to move forward.

    Second we many need to go out and find some resources to help us move forward. I have a master’s degree from university and in my 6 years of formal post secondary education, I never learned the tools necessary to move forward.

    I think people have the perception they should know how to move forward. Frankly there is virtually nothing in a formal education that teaches us how to do it.

    So if you are ready to take action, my advice is to find someone who already has the tools so you can make the changes quickly and easily.


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