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Please Don’t Try to Change

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Don’t Try!

I mean it. Don’t try to change.

Not one thing.

Not your bad habits, your bad behavior,

or your bad attitude.

Surprising advice from a therapist?

Not at all!  Here’s why.

Trying Doesn’t Work

If there is something in your life that

isn’t working, trying to change it isn’t

going to work, either.

The only thing that is going to work is

actually changing it.

Saying you are going to “try to change” is

code for “I’m not going to change but say

that I want to change.”

Doing Works

Doing something differently, even if it

doesn’t work out the way you planned

is change. Change doesn’t have to be


Learning a new coping skill is change.

Experimenting with a new habit is change.

Keeping a record of how you are

doing things differently is change.

Don’t Fool Yourself

Only change is change.

Don’t fool yourself into thinking you

really want to change if all you are

willing to do is “try.”

Throw trying away and jump in with

everything you’ve got, if you’re ready

to do things differently in your life.

What have you got to lose?


We are working on the chapter titled

“You Can’t Fix What You Don’t Know

Ain’t Broke” in  A Year to Change.

Don’t forget to work on the exercise that

will help you to figure out why you keep

doing that unhealthy thing you keep doing.

We will be able to change it next!



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