I mean it. Don’t try to change.
Not one thing.
Not your bad habits, your bad behavior,
or your bad attitude.
Surprising advice from a therapist?
Not at all! Here’s why.
Trying Doesn’t Work
If there is something in your life that
isn’t working, trying to change it isn’t
going to work, either.
The only thing that is going to work is
actually changing it.
Saying you are going to “try to change” is
code for “I’m not going to change but say
that I want to change.”
Doing something differently, even if it
doesn’t work out the way you planned
is change. Change doesn’t have to be
Learning a new coping skill is change.
Experimenting with a new habit is change.
Keeping a record of how you are
doing things differently is change.
Don’t Fool Yourself
Only change is change.
Don’t fool yourself into thinking you
really want to change if all you are
willing to do is “try.”
Throw trying away and jump in with
everything you’ve got, if you’re ready
to do things differently in your life.
What have you got to lose?
We are working on the chapter titled
“You Can’t Fix What You Don’t Know
Ain’t Broke” in A Year to Change.
Don’t forget to work on the exercise that
will help you to figure out why you keep
doing that unhealthy thing you keep doing.
We will be able to change it next!