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It’s Snark Week!

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You know them…

snarky people.

The masters of that combination of sarcastic

and cynical that ends up being smugly critical

and absolutely unbearable by human beings

after awhile.


If the snarks are your friends

or co-workers, you can handle it

because they will eventually go away.

Or you will go away.

But what if you live with a snark?

Living With A Snark

What if every time you screw

something up, you can count on your

partner to make a snarky remark like

“Well, aren’t you the genius?”

That should actually be called a re-snark,

don’t you think?

Or if you ask your partner if they got

the mail yet, they say “No, I was waiting

for it to be delivered by drone. Of course,

I got the mail.”

A Snark In Sheep’s Clothing

Being snarky and sarcastic, although possibly

a sign of creativity and verbal intelligence,

is also a sign of something else:  aggression

disguised as humor at your expense.

It is a way of communicating something

to you indirectly, and in such a way that

there is no way for you to respond without

looking even more foolish.

It is cowardly bullying, if you will.

But, there’s actually a way to deal with snarks

that is both effective and kind of fun,

so let’s go snark hunting!

Snark Hunting!

The best way to handle a snark is to “play

dumb.”  Of course, the snark will say “that’s

not going to be that hard for you, now is it?”

(Don’t you just hate snarks?)

Another way to say that you’re going to play

dumb is that you are going to force the snark

to own up to what they are doing and communicate

directly, instead of using indirect, sarcastic,

snarky communication.

You’re going to force the snark to shed his

sarcastic wool and come out of hiding!

Examples, Please!

Snark: “Well, aren’t you the genius?!”

You: “Are you saying that I am a genuis?”

Snark:  “Ummm…I thought it was obvious

I wasn’t calling you a genius.”

You: “Why would you call me a genius if

you don’t think I am a genius?”

Force the snark to say it:  “I was calling you

a genius to be mean.  Because I didn’t think

you were being very smart.”

You: “Why would you do that?”

The Power of “Why?”

The most powerful question you can ask

of a snark is “Why?”

Mainly because the snark doesn’t ever think

to ask why they are snarky.

Or if it’s okay to be snarky to you.

But it’s high time he started.

Don’t Forget:

Now that you know how to handle snarks,

you can have some fun with the mean,

sarcastic, attempts to belittle remarks

that come your way.

Refuse to read between the lines and

remember to ask the all-important

“Why?” question and you’ll make the

ocean a lot safer to swim in.

Or your apartment or home to live in.

Or your workplace to work in.

Snark-free Zones:

Come on in.  The conversation’s fine!




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