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Self-Esteem “Off the Grid”


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Love the concept of living off the grid?

A home that creates it’s own energy and

water supply, so that there is no need to

pay for and rely on outside sources would

be the ideal home for many people.

In a home that’s “off the grid,” you might

even be able to get the power company

to pay you, because your meter is actually

running backwards!

Since I know next to nothing about building

homes “off the grid,” I’m going to apply this

concept to something I do know a lot about:


Compliments as Fuel

It’s nice to get compliments.

It’s nice to have approval from people we respect.

It’s nice to have someone give you positive feedback.

Think of this input from others as electricity.

It’s like power that comes from outside that is fuel

for you and helps you keep your inner lights on.

If you are dependent on this from others in order to

feel good about yourself, you are “on the grid.”

Don’t Forget to Pay Your Electricity Bill…

You are going to have to pay for getting this power.

Maybe not in dollars, but there will be expectations

that you conform or “pay back” to others what they

are providing for you.  Everything has a cost.

If you are dependent on another’s approval,

then your range of things you can do without them

withdrawing their approval becomes more limited.

You won’t want to disappoint that person and risk

this withdrawal or getting disapproval from them.

That loss of range of movement is your power bill.

Going Off the Grid

Self-Esteem that is dependent upon others approving

of you and your actions and choices is not true Self-Esteem.

True Self-Esteem is when you can feel good about the choices

you make, based on what you know is right and healthy for YOU.

Regardless of what anyone else thinks or says.

You can generate your own positive feedback.

You can provide your own power supply to keep those

inside lights on.  You might be able to provide so much

power on your own that you can give the excess away

to others, providing some much-needed fuel for someone.

Run Your Power Meter in Reverse

Do what you need to do to learn how to create Self-Esteem.

There are many resources on the internet,

in books, and in therapists’ offices.

You may have to learn a new skill set or get new

tools in order to create your own Self-Esteem.

You might have to build a new foundation

or install some new habit patterns.

It will be worth it.  It will pay you back.

Get that power meter running in reverse!

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