Love the concept of living off the grid?
A home that creates it’s own energy and
water supply, so that there is no need to
pay for and rely on outside sources would
be the ideal home for many people.
In a home that’s “off the grid,” you might
even be able to get the power company
to pay you, because your meter is actually
Since I know next to nothing about building
homes “off the grid,” I’m going to apply this
concept to something I do know a lot about:
Compliments as Fuel
It’s nice to get compliments.
It’s nice to have approval from people we respect.
It’s nice to have someone give you positive feedback.
Think of this input from others as electricity.
It’s like power that comes from outside that is fuel
for you and helps you keep your inner lights on.
If you are dependent on this from others in order to
feel good about yourself, you are “on the grid.”
Don’t Forget to Pay Your Electricity Bill…
You are going to have to pay for getting this power.
Maybe not in dollars, but there will be expectations
that you conform or “pay back” to others what they
are providing for you. Everything has a cost.
If you are dependent on another’s approval,
then your range of things you can do without them
withdrawing their approval becomes more limited.
You won’t want to disappoint that person and risk
this withdrawal or getting disapproval from them.
That loss of range of movement is your power bill.
Going Off the Grid
Self-Esteem that is dependent upon others approving
of you and your actions and choices is not true Self-Esteem.
True Self-Esteem is when you can feel good about the choices
you make, based on what you know is right and healthy for YOU.
Regardless of what anyone else thinks or says.
You can generate your own positive feedback.
You can provide your own power supply to keep those
inside lights on. You might be able to provide so much
power on your own that you can give the excess away
to others, providing some much-needed fuel for someone.
Run Your Power Meter in Reverse
Do what you need to do to learn how to create Self-Esteem.
There are many resources on the internet,
in books, and in therapists’ offices.
You may have to learn a new skill set or get new
tools in order to create your own Self-Esteem.
You might have to build a new foundation
or install some new habit patterns.
It will be worth it. It will pay you back.
Get that power meter running in reverse!