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Pandora’s Box

 Out of Pandora’s Box…

This year I replaced the iPod I used to play

music during psychotherapy sessions

with music streamed through Pandora on my

computer…and I love it!  Now I stream a mix of

new age, Celtic, and classical music all day long.

Like Pandora’s box, once I opened it,

I didn’t know what was going to come flying out.

Synchronicity and A New Riff

Hardly anyone notices there is music in my

office, and that’s fine…it shouldn’t really be what

stands out.  But this morning, just as my client was

discussing how she was attempting to deal with

a very traumatic event in her life, not only did she

notice it, she recognized it was the theme from

Schindler’s List…and that began a new riff.

Our obligation is to give meaning to life and in

doing so to overcome the passive, indifferent life.

~Elie Wiesel


From an early age, I knew quite a bit about the

Holocaust.  My Hungarian father, my aunts and

grandmother were concentration camp survivors.

As I grew up, I heard stories and saw the effects on

real human beings of inhuman trauma and tragedies,

of things that no one should ever have to experience.


My family history made me aware there was real evil in the world.

But it also taught me that there was the chance to overcome it.


We have to go into the despair and go beyond it,

by working and doing for somebody else,

by using it for something else.

~Elie Wiesel


Back to this morning’s therapy session.

A conversation began about how remembering

something as terrible as the Holocaust could

provide perspective on whatever a person

was dealing with or coping with in the moment.


You might see that whatever you are facing

is probably nowhere near as bad as the

circumstances of the actual Holocaust.

And that could give you some relief.

Or you might relate, instead, to the pain and

suffering of those who endured great trials.


Hope is like peace. It is not a gift from God.

It is a gift only we can give one another.

~Elie Wiesel


Thinking of what others have gone through

in truly horrific circumstances is not meant

to be an exercise to minimize your own pain.

Pain is pain, it is all legitimate and real,

and there are horrific circumstances

enough to go around, unfortunately,

no matter what the cause.


But thinking of what others have gone through

CAN provide an awareness that you belong

to the “tribe of humans” who know how you feel.

Because you belong to that group of human

beings who also have suffered and struggled.


And remembering what others have survived

can remind you that you can also survive your

own traumas and tragedies…you can gain hope

and courage from the triumph of the spirit of

others who also have been dearly challenged.


 There are victories of the soul and spirit.

Sometimes, even if you lose, you win.

                     ~Elie Wiesel


No matter what you may be challenged with today

in your life, remember that you are not alone.


There are others who have gone before you into

very dark places, met with evil incarnate, and

suffered and struggled and done the best they

could do in their awful circumstances.


You are not alone today in attempting to meet

whatever is your personal challenge.

And what is most important is that you fight

the good fight and that you never, ever give up.


Listen to it here: Schindler’s List Theme

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