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No One Likes A Bully!

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Imagine you’re given two choices

about getting something done:

Choice #1: Do it or else bad things are

going to happen to you.       OR

Choice #2: Do it and I’ll give you the reasons

why it would be a good idea for you to do it.

Which choice appeals to you the most?

You Can’t Tell Me What To Do!

Even if both choices have some merit,

most people are going to choose #2.

Most people don’t like to be bullied into

doing things.

Maybe you’re like most people?

Why Do You Do It?

Do you eat well because you’re afraid to get fat?

Or because it will improve your health and energy?

Do you go to work because you’re afraid you’ll

be fired if you don’t?

Or because you have a contribution to make?

Do you stay with someone because you’re

afraid to be alone?

Or because you are happy, growing, and

learning in the relationship?

Fear As Motivator

Are you being motivated by fear?

You do something or you stay because

you’re afraid of the consequences.

It’s understandable if you make some

decisions based on fear of consequences.

Some consequences are best avoided.

And Fear sure is a great motivator.

But it’s actually not the best one.

What Do You Want?

Most people like to feel they have a choice

and that they are making the decision that

is right for them.

And not simply because they are afraid of

the consequences.

And here’s the truth:

You will be more successful if you make healthy

choices in your life because you WANT something

good for yourself than you will trying to AVOID

something bad happening to you.

No One Likes A Bully

Being afraid is like being bullied.

By Fear.

It’s very tempting to strike back at that Fear

Bully by not doing the healthy thing so you

can prove who’s in charge.

Ever do that?

Prove that you’re stronger than the fear of

dying of lung cancer, so you keep smoking?

That’ll show that bully who’s boss!

You Have A Choice

You don’t have to let fear be your motivator.

You can examine all the good reasons why you

might consider doing something, and choose.

You have a choice to refuse to let fear of negative

consequences be the only reason you change.

Use your power wisely!


This week in A Year to Change, we are working on

the chapter called “Dear Scale…It’s Over” which

is all about learning how to stop being bullied by

the number you see when you step on your scale.

If that sounds like something you’d like to learn

how to do, join me and see what living free from

fear of your weight can do for you!

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