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Stop freaking out!

Finding the balance

is what we are all trying to do…

whether we are talking about the balance between work and play,

taking care of others and taking care of ourselves,

or between caring too little or caring too much.

Finding the Sweet Spot

Athletes and anyone else who has to “perform” are always

looking for that sweet spot where they care enough about

how they are doing to want to do their best…

but not so much that they are freaking out about

their performance.

Because as any performer knows, caring too much about

the performance will doom it.

So how do you find the sweet spot?

How do you care, but not too much?

How do you care just enough to get the best performance

out of yourself?

But not so much that you find yourself freaking out?!

Rule #1:  Being Anxious Means You Care

Understand that the fact that you are anxious or

nervous about how well you are going to do

(on a test, in an interview, on a date)

is only because you care.

And caring is a good thing!

Too much of a good thing is what turns

a good thing into a bad thing.

(I’m oversimplifying here, but you get the point.)

Rule #2:  You’re Only Responsible For What You Can Control

If you’re about to deliver what you hope is going to be

a rocking performance, you have to put 100% into

whatever aspects of the situation you have control over…

and 0% into the aspects that you don’t.

You can’t control the outcome (the score, the grade,

whether s/he will want a second date with you).

What you CAN control is the process:  giving it

your all, doing the best you can given the circumstances.

Rule #3:  Care, Don’t Freak

You want to go all the way up to the top of

“the mountain of caring”, without taking even

one more step past the summit…

or you’ll fall off and into the “chasm of

freaking out and blowing your performance.”

To sum up, care, but don’t freak.

Otherwise, we’re going to have to send

out a search and rescue team for you!  🙂





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