Row, Row, Row Your Boat…
Having trouble making a decision?
You’re not alone. Most people say that the more
important the decision, the harder it is to make.
Some decisions are not the kind that can be made
easily or by using sheer force of will.
Some decisions just take their own sweet time.
Some decisions seem like they have to make themselves.
Hurry Up and Wait
Some are like the “hurry up and wait” variety…
you have to wait to get more information first.
Or you have to wait to get clarity of your feelings.
Or there are other people or circumstances that
factor into this decision so you’re waiting on that.
The decision is not just yours to make right now.
Jump Into the Decision Boat!
If you’ve got this kind of decision to make,
you’re going to have to get comfortable with
this unique decision-making process.
This process is like floating down a stream,
merrily or not-so-merrily.
One Way or the Other
You are in your boat, rowing gently, and
you’re going to have to wait to see where the
stream is going to carry you.
You will eventually get to a place where your
boat will either go one way or the other.
Until you get to that place in the stream,
when the decision can be made, there’s
a few things you can be doing.
Keep Your Eyes Open
Here’s what you have to watch out for as you
are in your boat, waiting for more information
or other people to make their move, or whatever:
Over the Falls
Waterfalls are points where your boat is at risk
for going over. You wait so long to make the
decision that you miss that crucial moment.
Then the decision really will make itself…
but not always in your best interest.
It’s like waiting to decide to get help for a
marriage or your child, and whoops!
You’re too late…over the falls you go.
Someone else decides it’s over or your kid
gets into major trouble with the law.
You have to pay attention to the signs that
it’s time for a decision to made, then act.
Stuck in a Whirlpool
Whirlpools are places where your boat also
is no longer going gently down the stream…
you’re stuck in a whirlpool, going around and
around and around…worrying and catastrophizing
but not making any progress toward a decision.
Here you’ve got to get moving down the stream
by trusting that the signs will become obvious
eventually…you’ve just got to keep gathering
information and pay attention. And you can
learn to trust the process that is unfolding.
Merrily, Merrily, Merrily…
So your job while you’re waiting for the right
time or enough information to make a decision
is to keep moving down the stream, pay attention
to the signs that it’s time to go one way or the other,
and enjoy ride as much as you can.
And don’t forget that “life is just a dream!”