Hate the holidays? Dread Christmastime?
For people who have nothing but bad
memories of the holidays from growing up,
when this time of year rolls around, they can’t
wait for it to just roll on by as fast as possible.
Nothing But Stress?
Or maybe you don’t like the holidays mainly
because they don’t mean anything to you.
There are a lot people who are feeling very
disconnected from the holidays due to the
emphasis on materialism or on trying to
meet other’s expectations, which just
creates unnecessary stress.
But it doesn’t have to be like this.
Land Reclamation Projects
You’ve probably heard of something called
“land reclamation” projects before. It’s when
a piece of land that is unsuitable for cultivation,
due to it being desert or marsh or from its
being abused with waste products, is restored
to being productive, useful land.
It can take time, and sometimes some resources,
but even a piece of land that has become a toxic
waste dump can be reclaimed and turned into a
beautiful park for people to use and enjoy.
Your Holiday Reclamation Project
You can reclaim the holidays.
You can take a holiday and make it your own,
clean it up, get rid of the toxic waste, purify it,
and turn it into something beautiful that can
be enjoyed by everyone, including you.
How do you do this?
1. Decide what the holiday means to YOU!
What is the meaning behind this holiday for
you? Is there any point in celebrating it? Are
there any values related to this time of year that
make sense to you? What can you get behind?
Loving? Giving? Celebrating? Contemplating?
Being with family or friends? Helping those who
have less than you do? Anything?
2. What traditions matter to YOU?
Are there any things that you did growing up
at the holidays that hold special meaning to you,
meaning that doesn’t bring back bad memories?
If so, keep them. If not, you can make your own
traditions. You can do the holidays in any way
that is right and healthy for you and your family.
For ideas, ask your friends and co-workers what
they do to celebrate in their families.
It’s more than okay to borrow, and to modify.
3. Let your decisions come from your values.
You can decide what to do and not do this season
based on what the holiday means to you and
what traditions matter to you.
From start to finish, your choices and behaviors
can all match your values about the holiday.
If the holidays for you are a time for love and sharing,
then think about the ways you can express that.
If the holidays mean to you it’s time for setting
aside differences, being with family, or expressing
gratitude…how would that influence what you do?
Whatever you do, please consider reclaiming
the holidays for yourself…from the past, from
any toxic influence that has made them something
that you dread instead of enjoy.
You deserve to have this time to devote to
whatever matters the most to you.
Love, joy, peace, sharing, gratitude,
forgiveness, quiet, or healing.
I wish for you a happy reclaimed holiday!