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Stop Trying to Be the Best

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Don’t Be the Best

There are a million blog posts telling you

how to be better or that simply tell you how

to “be the best” at whatever you do.

This post is going to tell you to stop trying

to be the best and do these 3 things instead.

1.  Be Reliable

If you say you’re going to do something,

then do it!

Do it when you say you’re going to do it.

Do it unless there is a real emergency.

And a real emergency means someone

is seriously ill or is dying, not that you

had to finish watching the most recent

episode of Walking Dead.

Being reliable has become a very rare

quality and you will stand out head and

shoulders above your competition if you are.

2.  Be Kind

If you cannot be successful at what you

are doing and be kind at the same time,

I don’t know what line of work you are in,

but I’m sorry for you.

Not to mention whoever has to work

with, for, or around you.

Professional torturers might need to be

unkind. Unless you are a professional

torturer, you can be kind as you go about

doing your line of work.

Kindness will take you far.

Kindness and reliability will take you

anywhere you want to go.

3.  Be Yourself

Anyone that you can point to and say

“He or she is the Best!” at what they do

did not get there by being anything except

the best version of themselves that they could be.

They were not imitating someone else.

They were allowing themselves to learn from

others, while nurturing the unique qualities

that only they had.

Throw away the blueprints and trust that

you will become the best version of yourself

that you can become, if you commit to learning,

growing, stretching, taking risks, and making

some mistakes.

Don’t imitate. You are good enough.

You might even be the best.



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